Wednesday, January 27, 2010

Sunday, January 24, 2010

"DID THIS HAVE TO HAPPEN TO YOU AND ME?"... dealing with ADULT A.D.D.

I used this title to my post to hopefully explain why I think I can help some people with Adult A.D.D..First of all, I cannot answer my own question. But if you have read my posts on this blog, you might understand why I asked it.

Before I was ever dx'ed with any disease, I knew I was just delaying the realization that I had a problem. I used all the self medicating substances availavlbe to forget what I knew. It only caused me to remember that I was screwed up, so try another one...on and on for most my life.

Then ...."WHAMO!!"...It became a matter of life or......DEATH! Not only physicaly, but mentaly. Physicaly, I had to control blood suger,blood pressure,and weight(diabetes type 2) or die. Which I did, with the help and support of Carolyn, my 2nd wife(for the last 6+ yrs). She had already put Her foot down,so to speak, while we were engaged(before I had any dx'ed diseases) to be married, about my "Way of living", that became obvious to Her! That is a long story about how she saved my life(that time) though.

Mentaly, I had to accept the fact that A.D.D. is real, and that I have it. I did'nt accept that fact when first dx'ed with it, but I did take the presrcibed medications, and noticed, well not just me, but everyone that knows me, I was better at paying attn.,staying on task,...etc... But I still was'nt educated about A.D.D.,and was'nt dealing with the many other symptoms that come with A.D.D.. I am now, by learning about A.D.D. and how we are all affected with some(alot) of the same symptoms, but we are all INDIVIDUALS, and need help in different ways to "Deal with Adult A.D.D."

So what I am trying to explain is, some of the big problems that WILL occur, can be dealt with, when you accept the HARD FACTS that A.D.D. is REAL, and we have to find out the way to deal/manage it, as best we can, and not dwell on "DID THIS HAVE TO HAPPEN TO YOU AND ME?" It did happen, and ya can't change that, but you can Live or..........

Friday, January 8, 2010

Reading Minds Help Me!.. blogs are therepy, if you listen.

This is a post that has been on my "My Mind" from the day I started this blog. And the facts of life, as I see them, that can help us understand how ADD can be managed...if we open our "Minds".

If you have read my first post http://addmsorboth.blogspot.com/2009/08/it-is-add.html  you know that I changed my "Mind" about the reason I started this blog. Some of you know me as a frequent commenter at Jeffs blog http://jeffsaddmind.com/  and may wonder why I have'nt mentioned Jeff in any of my posts. The answer is: I was worried that Jeff's blog may be infected and recieve traffic from ppl w/Multiple Sclerosis, that thought they could be helped w/that disease @ his blog. That is not what Jeff's blog is about, and before I sterted this blog I e-mailed Jeff and Gina Pera and told them my plans and concerns about this, and that I would not give links to there websites, until they were ready. They both replied that very day and they understood my concerns. They also both recomended that I e-mail them both about this(which I had already done.. lol). But that shows they have respect for each other...and me.

Jeffs blog has been, and still is, very helpfull to me! His way of writing and explaining his own ADD, and what he has discovered about the affects of ADD on us and our families/freinds, is the best blog on the internet, and I highly recommend it!! I recommend you first read the name of the blog: "Jeff's  A.D.D. Mind". before making a judgement. That is Jeff's "Mind", and you will understand why he wants to help us manage and deal with our own "A.D.D. Minds"

So, you know now, how much I have been helped by Jeff & Gina, and that they both see that I am trying to help others with my own blog(in my own sometimes confusing way of speaking my own "Mind").